5 Ways To Cope With Anxiety As A Parent
Parenting is both the hardest thing you’ve ever done and the most important. There are so, so many things that can cause parents stress. And then, that stress can lead to anxiety which makes parenting even more challenging! Here are some simple ways to help you cope with stress and find a little more peace for yourself.
Make a To-Do List
Focusing on worries can cause lots of stress. It may help to clear your mind by making a to-do list. Put down everything that needs to be done into your phone or onto a sheet of paper…or a note on your phone or app on your computer. And as a list, each item, visualize yourself removing this task from your mind onto the list.
Watch Your Language
Many times parents believe things will get better when their children move on to the next phase of their maturity. However, the truth is that the worry will continue until you change your pattern of thought. Instead, watch the language you use to describe things. Don’t use phrases such as, “this will be a disaster if I don’t get it done on time” or “I’ll die of embarrassment if I forget.”
Also change thoughts of “I have to” to “I want to”. For example, instead of saying “I have to sign the kids up for karate” say, “I want to sign the kids up for karate because I know they’ll love it.”
Get Some Fresh Air
There’s nothing like some fresh air and sunlight to ease anxiety. Put your baby in a stroller and go for a walk around the block, to a neighbor’s house, or a local park. Take your kids to an outdoor mall or sit on the patio of a frozen yogurt shop and share a frozen treat. You can also try your local library. Some libraries also have outdoor patio areas where you can read with your kids.
Practice Mindfulness Exercises
If your anxiety is difficult to control, try deep breathing from your belly. While you do this, concentrate on five things you can see, four things you can touch, three things you can hear, two things you can smell, and one thing you can taste. This can help calm you when you’re feeling a panic or anxiety attack start to arise.
Use Your Support Network
Call your friends or family to chat or ask for advice. It may also help to vent with a Facebook parenting group or other online message board. You can also call your therapist and make an appointment and work through your challenges.
Support Through Counseling
Parenting is difficult under the very best of circumstances. Add in stress around work, health concerns, family difficulties, etc and it’s no wonder so many parents feel anxious. If you find your anxiety to be impacting your ability to be a happy, successful parent, it might be time to speak with a professional who can help. If you live anywhere in Missouri, please reach out and contact us here at Aspire Counseling today. We’d love to talk to you about how counseling may be able to help with your anxiety and talk further about which of our mental health therapists will be the best fit for you. We offer counseling in Columbia, MO or online to anyone in Missouri. Taking care of your own mental health is one of the best things you can do for your children. We can help.
