Therapy for Stress, Burnout & Perfectionism in Columbia & Lee's Summit, MO

This is one of the most common questions we hear from parents. Here's a helpful guideline: if anxiety is persistent and interfering with your child's daily life in any significant way, it's worth seeking help.

Look for patterns where worry is affecting:

• School attendance, participation, or performance

• Sleep (trouble falling or staying asleep)

• Family life (frequent meltdowns, avoidance affecting family activities)

• Friendships and social development

• Physical health (frequent complaints without medical cause)

You don't need to wait until things are in crisis. Early intervention often means faster progress and less suffering for your child.

If you're still not sure, read more about identifying anxiety in children and teens or reach out for a consultation. We're happy to talk through what you're seeing and help you determine if therapy is the right next step.

We work with children ages 3 and up for anxiety treatment and general counseling needs. We also provide specialized support for teenagers navigating anxiety during the adolescent years.

Our therapists are trained to work with young children using developmentally appropriate, play-based approaches as well as more direct conversation-based therapy for older kids and teens. We'll match your child with a therapist whose style and training fit their age and needs.

For more details about our approach to working with children of all ages, see our counseling for children page.

School refusal can be caused by anxiety—but not always. It's important to rule out other issues first, including:

• Bullying or peer conflicts

• Learning difficulties

• Teacher relationship problems

• Trauma at school

Once we've ruled out those factors, anxiety-based school refusal is usually addressed through a combination of assessment, collaboration with the school, and gradual exposure to help your child return to the classroom.

We've helped families navigate school refusal successfully. The key is starting with a thorough understanding of what's driving the avoidance, then creating a step-by-step plan that respects your child's anxiety while also helping them move forward.

This depends on your child's specific situation, but here are some general timelines:

General anxiety (GAD, social anxiety, specific fears): Many children make significant progress in 12-16 weekly sessions with CBT. Some need a few more months to fully integrate the skills and practice in various settings.

School refusal: The timeline varies depending on how long your child has been out of school and what's underneath the refusal. We typically see progress within 8-12 weeks, though full return to school might take longer.

Trauma-related anxiety: If we're using TF-CBT, this is typically a time-limited treatment of 12-20 sessions. Many families see meaningful improvement in trauma symptoms and anxiety within this timeframe.

OCD with anxiety: ERP for OCD is also generally time-limited, often showing results within 12-20 sessions, though maintenance work might be recommended.

We'll give you a clearer picture once we've done an initial assessment and understand your child's specific needs.

This is completely normal. Many anxious children are nervous about trying something new—especially if it involves talking about things that feel uncomfortable.

Here's what often helps:

• Frame it as learning new skills (like a coach would teach), not as something being "wrong" with them

• Emphasize that the therapist's job is to help them feel better and do more of what they enjoy

• Let them know they'll have a say in what they work on

• Consider starting with online therapy if going to an office feels intimidating

• Talk about other kids you know who have benefited from therapy

Once kids start therapy and realize it's not scary—and that they're actually learning helpful tools—most become willing participants. Our therapists are skilled at building rapport even with reluctant kids.

Yes! We offer both in-person therapy in Columbia and online therapy throughout Missouri.

Research shows that online CBT can be just as effective as in-person therapy for anxiety and depression. For some kids, being in their home environment actually makes it easier to practice anxiety skills in real situations.

Online therapy can be a great fit for:

• Kids who are anxious about going to a new place

• Families with scheduling or transportation challenges

• Children who are comfortable with technology

• Situations where practicing skills at home is especially relevant

We'll help you determine whether online or in-person therapy is the best fit for your child.

While professional therapy is important for significant anxiety, there are things you can do at home to support your child:

Validate their feelings without reinforcing avoidance. It's okay to acknowledge that something feels scary—but also communicate confidence that they can handle it.

Avoid excessive reassurance. Answering the same "what if" questions over and over can actually strengthen anxiety. Instead, help your child practice tolerating uncertainty.

Model healthy anxiety management. Let your child see you handling your own worries in productive ways.

Create structure and predictability when possible. Anxious kids often do better when they know what to expect.

Encourage facing fears gradually. Support small, brave steps rather than pushing for big leaps.

For more specific guidance, you might find our article on helping your child with anxiety useful (the strategies apply to kids of various ages).

And of course, working with a therapist will give you personalized strategies for your specific child and situation.

Anxiety and trauma often go together. If your child has experienced something frightening or overwhelming—whether it's a single scary event or ongoing stress—trauma-informed therapy is important.

We offer Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT) for children and teens, which is the evidence-based treatment specifically designed for kids who've experienced trauma. TF-CBT addresses both the trauma itself and the anxiety that often comes with it.

During your initial consultation, we'll assess whether trauma is part of the picture and make sure your child is matched with a therapist trained in trauma treatment.

General anxiety involves excessive worry about a range of things—school, health, family, the future. The worry moves around and can be hard to pin down.

OCD (Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder) involves specific intrusive thoughts (obsessions) that drive repetitive behaviors or mental rituals (compulsions). For example:

• Intrusive thoughts about germs or contamination → excessive handwashing

• Intrusive thoughts about harm coming to loved ones → checking behaviors

• Intrusive thoughts about things not being "right" → ordering or counting rituals

OCD requires a specialized treatment approach called Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP). Our therapists are trained in ERP and can help if your child is showing signs of OCD.

If you're not sure whether what you're seeing is general anxiety or OCD, we'll help you figure that out during the assessment process.

When appropriate and with your permission, we collaborate with your child's school to support their success. This might include:

• Consulting with teachers or school counselors about strategies that help

• Providing information about anxiety and how it shows up in the classroom

• Helping create a gradual return-to-school plan for kids with school refusal

• Participating in IEP or 504 meetings when needed

School collaboration is especially important for children with school-based anxiety or significant attendance concerns. We work to ensure everyone is on the same page and supporting your child's progress.

Therapy for children and teens involves a balance of confidentiality and parent involvement. Here's how we approach it:

For younger children (generally under 12): Parents are usually more involved in sessions and have access to most information. We explain this to kids in age-appropriate ways and still create space for them to share.

For teens (generally 12+): We build trust by offering some privacy while also keeping parents in the loop about important information (like safety concerns). We're transparent with teens about what we will and won't share with parents.

Always: If there are safety concerns (like thoughts of self-harm, harm to others, or abuse), we'll involve parents and take necessary steps to keep your child safe.

We'll discuss confidentiality expectations during the first session so everyone knows what to expect.

Therapy—particularly CBT—is the first-line treatment for most childhood anxiety. Many kids make excellent progress with therapy alone.

However, for some children, a combination of therapy and medication is most effective.

If we think medication might be helpful for your child, we'll have that conversation with you and can provide a referral to a child psychiatrist or your pediatrician. Our therapists are happy to coordinate with prescribers to ensure your child gets comprehensive care.